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HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM AND BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE? 4THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW.

Hello friends and welcome back to another blog. I am very excited to be back and truly happy to share some tips and ideas about this topic that we all seem to struggle with at some point in our life.



It takes time to build a strong self esteem and learn to trust yourself to be confident, but is not impossible unless you start trying. Keep in mind that oftentimes the lack of these two come from a family that struggle with the same issue or physiological patterns that have been created overtime.


I personally have struggle with low self esteem since I was a teenager, so I understand what you are going through. It is curious how the first one’s that fight with this problems are usually the first one’s that also judge others that are going through the same path or worst, but why is that? the reason behind it is that, in a way looking at others struggle with low self esteem make us feel better about ourselves in a way that we understand that we are not alone in this battle, so this has become a normal feeling in our society.


Having low self-esteem or low confidence is not a normal thing for you to get used to or understand that this is how you are going to live for the rest of your life. You are not alone and you do not have to settle for less than what you deserve.


HOW TO BUILD SELF-ESTEEM AND BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE?


The first thing that I have to say is that self development is an everyday practice. You are going to have to understand this if you really want to improve your life. The minute you stop constructing a strong mindset you won’t be able to fight the normal daily battles that we face in life.


1-It is about the mindset not the physical.


Yes, I already know what you are thinking, but let me tell you that if you think that is all about the way you look, you are completely wrong. In order to establish change and see results you have to start fixing from the inside out. Nothing becomes a physical reality until you cultivate and believe it in your mind first. If you want to have high self-esteem and more confidence then, start thinking about it in a positive way.

Stop looking at the pictures of 5 years ago and comparing yourself to he person you were back then because you are not her/him anymore.

Stop talking to yourself like you are your own enemy and treat yourself with respect.

Stop criticizing your body or the way you look in the mirror.

Stop focusing on the qualities you do not like about yourself.

You are doing this for you to improve the quality of your life not for other to see you or appreciate you. People will always see what you show them. Most of the time we act unconsciously and it is easy to fall in the negative conversation with friends that feel bad about their image as well. Take a step back and shut-up. If you do not love and respect yourself nobody will do it either because that is the message you are delivering everyday with the way you dress, the way you walk and the way you talk.

Change your mindset slowly by having positive conversations with yourself everyday, look at the mirror and admire the things you love about yourself and even if its hard look harder. Take control of your thoughts and when you catch yourself in the negative thinking change the story to a positive version. Just like when you change the channel in the TV because the movie is too boring.


2- Declutter.


We are creatures of habits, and one of the habits we absolutely love is to save and accumulate things that do not have a purpose. You are probably wonder what does cleaning and throwing stuff out had to do with self-esteem? Well, let me tell you that when you clean and have things that serve a purpose in your house your emotions change, and for you to be happy and confident and grow positive feelings you need to raise your vibration by changing the way you feel about things.

It happens the same with our self-esteem and confidence. Why would you keep cloth that do not fit anymore and you have been having for the last few year, ohh let me guess is for when you lose weight right? That is a horrible mindset. By saving old cloth that you like but does not fit you anymore means that you are basically reminding yourself that you are not where you want to be. More than a motivation this is a set back that instead is destroying your self-confidence.

De-clutter everything that does not fit anymore or that doesn’t make you feel absolutely amazing about yourself. No, No, No you do not need to save that because you are going to do it, you are going to push hard and you are going to make it happen for you. When you get to the other side where you feel incredible about the way you look you are going to need new things that go with the new you, and that cloth that did not even served a purpose in the first place will get dispose. Do you know why? A person with a high self-esteem and confidence do not need anything else to feel amazing about herself/himself because he/she already is.


3-Invest in yourself.


Going back to the first point where I told you that you have to treat yourself with respect. Part of doing that is investing in yourself to become the best version you can be and that goes for the inside and out.

Start by creating habits and routines that will allow you to rest, be positive and feel happy. Meditate, listen to happy music, hang out with people that have already accomplish what you want in life and that inspire you and make you feel good. Buy new self-improvement books, take a course, learn something new, try a new hobby and do walks in nature.

Be grateful for what you have and who you are and appreciate your surroundings, the people and the things that have contribute in your life in a positive way. Invest in yourself by going to a spa, get a facial, buy cloth that make you feel like a queen/king. Take yourself out to dinner, take yourself to the movies. Part of loving yourself is learning to be along and enjoy time with your own persona.

Do things for you, if you are able to buy a coffee for a friend you have to be able to buy one for you as well. If you are able to buy a gift for a friend then, do so for you as well. Give yourself complements just like you will do with others and the most important things celebrate yourself and your small victories. Tell yourself what a good job you have done, what a kind person you are or how beautiful your makeup came out today.


4-Do the job.


You are not allow to have low-self esteem if you are not doing anything to fix it. Stop complaining about the 5 pounds you gained recently if you are not going to the gym. You have to push yourself harder and get up and do the job. I could be here all day giving you tips on how to boost your confidence, but if you do not push yourself to practice this things nothing is going to change. It is not about how much information you have, it is about what are you going to do with that information. Start today and make a plan and start acting on it. That is the way to go.


Even this day I sometimes struggle with this myself, but I have the information and I know what to do with it. I know if I don’t push myself hard enough it is going to be in vane. The one thing I understood a while back is that we are only here for a short time and no matter what decision we end up making it is going to be hard. The choice is yours, which battle do you want to fight? Do you want to complain all your life because you are not doing the job or be tired and struggle because you are pushing hard, but you are happy. it s always going to be your decision.


I really hope you have enjoy this post. I know you guys have requested this through my Pinterest and Instagram, but I wanted to come out here and offer you the most genuine information that I could. Thank you so much for passing by. I will be back tomorrow with more inspiring content.



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